Everything You Need To Know About Bar And Bat Mitzvahs
If you're planning a bar mitzvah or know someone who is, here's everything you need to know about them - what they are, who celebrates them, what happens during the ceremony, and what happens at the party afterward.
What is a bar mitzvah?
If you are not familiar with bar mitzvahs, they are a coming-of-age ceremony for Jewish boys. It typically occurs when the boy reaches the age of 13. The bar mitzvah marks the point at which the boy becomes responsible for his own actions and is held to the same religious and moral standards as an adult. It is similar to a Sweet 16 party or a Quinceanera.
What is the difference between a bar and a bat mitzvah?
The main difference between a bar and bat mitzvah is that a bar mitzvah is for boys and a bat mitzvah is for girls. Other than that, the two ceremonies are very similar.
What happens during a bar or bat mitzvah ceremony?
During the temple portion of the ceremony, the boy or girl recites a portion of the Torah in front of the assembled community. This is often done in Hebrew, although some boys and girls choose to recite the portion in English.
The ceremony also includes a blessing from the boy or girl's parents, as well as readings and prayers as well as speeches and songs by family and friends of the bar mitzvah boy or bat mitzvah girl. A party or celebration is usually held afterward to mark the occasion.
What are some of the common traditions associated with bar and bat mitzvahs?
There are many traditions associated with bar and bat mitzvahs, but some of the most common include giving the boy or girl a new name, holding a big party or celebration, and giving gifts.
Are bar mitzvahs typically large events?
Yes, bar and bat mitzvahs are typically large events. Families often invite extended family, friends, and even community members to celebrate the occasion. While the theming of bar mitzvahs are as varied as the teens themselves, both bar and bat mitzvahs are very large parties with lots of food and dancing, similar to a wedding reception.
What kind of gifts do people give for a bar or bat mitzvah?
Common gifts for these celebrations include money, religious items, and books. Families often also give the boy or girl a gift to help them transition into adulthood, such as a car or a piece of jewelry.
What type of food is served at a bar mitzvah?
There is no set menu for a bar or bat mitzvah, but the food is typically kosher. Many teens choose to have a themed bar mitzvah with the food being served relating to that theme. It is also common to serve all the favorite foods of the guest of honor.
In conclusion, bar mitzvahs and bat mitzvahs are important life events for Jewish teens and the after-parties are often major events that require a great deal of planning. To learn more about bar mitzvahs, contact a local service. Mazel tov!